Monday, November 29, 2010

The World Has Grown Suspicious of Anything That Looks Like A Happily Married Life

To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.

Why do we get married? And why do we have children?

Is it because we grow up believing that that's just what we're supposed to do?

Marriage has changed so much over the centuries. Women have the choice to keep their maiden names. Some couples don't have a wedding, but consider themselves common-law and still have the same rights as married couples. Couples live together and have children without being married. These things would not have been accepted long ago.

On television and movies, marriage is shown as bittersweet. Maybe even more bitter than sweet. In the movies the main characters tell us: "Everything changes after marriage. Don't get married. Don't have kids".

If we want to have children because we have love to give... why not adoption? There is a sad amount of children without love and shelter. But selfishly, it's exciting to have little clones of ourselves running around the world, right?

I'm all for marriage and children and look forward to it one day, but these are some questions that have come up in my debate class, and conversations with my engaged/married friends. I'd love to hear your opinions in the comments box below.

For now, here's a sign that was in an engagement ring store men's bathroom.

More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse.

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